Ang Pow Rates for Malaysian Chinese Wedding
Chinese in general spend a lot in their weddings. This is the same case in Singapore and Malaysia. If you are planning to attend a Malaysian Chinese wedding, how much should you pay for the Ang Pow (the red packet) or some called it Ang Bao?
Before we go to that, let me give you an example how much a couple spent for their Chinese wedding. Firstly for typical Chinese wedding, we spent on “koh tai lai” (Betrothal Gifts), pre-wedding photography, pre-wedding videos for some, wedding planner, wedding gowns (either you rent or purchase), flowers for actual day, props for actual day, your “hengdai” (brothers) and “jimui” (wife’s friends), dowries, wedding dinner tables, liquors and many others. Depending on how many tables you plan to invite, the fees can be easily from RM 50k and above. Of course, some modern couples are able to get away with holiday weddings. For us, our wedding night costs us more than RM 100k with over 70 tables, with liquors and such. Yes, we spent that much for our wedding.
Next, the big question that your parents will never answer you correctly. Why your parents insist a large wedding dinner?
In Chinese, when you invite someone for your wedding dinner, you call it “Cheng Yam” means “treat drink”. That’s why back in the old days, you see many people had to drag out from wedding dinners because they took the words seriously.
For our parents or your parents, this is the perfect time to reunion with families and friends. What is the other best way to gather hundreds of friends and families together? If the parents want to do birthday or wedding anniversary dinners, some might say they are showing off so the low key method of getting everyone together by not hurting their feelings and egos is wedding dinner. That’s why you can see their happiness meeting back friends and families during wedding dinners (despite the chaos behind the scenes)
Why some are not paying a lot in Ang Pow or Ang Bao?
This is one subjective question we see many wedding couples complain about on their Facebook after realizing that they were “underpaid” in Ang Pows.
By right Ang Pow is just a token. However due to the high cost and expenses as we explained above, wedding couples do feel the pain at the end of the day except they are rich or their parents are paying the dinner for them.
There are many uncles or aunties you invited are retirees and in a good wedding month, they have 5 – 10 wedding dinners to attend. If they have good children, they are getting money from them but looking at the situation of the country’s economy, it is tough. That’s why by attending wedding dinners and paying off hefty ang pows are not sustainable for them. They still need to survive.
For your beloved friends who you think they underpaid you, they might be looking good using their credit cards opening bottles in clubs, but they are simply broke. Thus, for your friends from other races, giving ang pows are still new to them. Hence, for your rich friends who underpaid you, well that one is one tricky question you should know.
Lastly, as promised the Malaysian Chinese Wedding Ang Pow Rates.
Malaysian Chinese Wedding Ang Pow Rates:
- Chinese Restaurants: Expect to pay at least RM 100 and above per person
- Non Five Star Hotels: Expect to pay at least RM 150 and above per person
- Five Star Hotels: Expect to pay at least RM 200 and above per person
- Garden Wedding: Expect to pay at least RM 200 and above per person
Please take note, this is basic rates for the wedding couples to break even (or still make loss).
We know many friends who make loss and got a hefty debt after their wedding dinner. Most of them are getting five figures deficit while some break even or some even makes profits.
At the end of the day, if you plan to hold a huge wedding banquet, always be practical. We know many couples did two wedding nights, one for family in Chinese restaurants and one for friends in hotels or other places. We also attended wedding dinners that do not accept “Ang Pows” at all.
Many people tend to plan their wedding right but most of them forget to plan their life after wedding.
We hope this will help you understand the meaning of Chinese wedding and standard Ang Pow rates for Malaysian Chinese Wedding. Our wedding was ages ago and we have two kids now.
This is our opinion, agree or disagree, please comment. Thank you for reading.